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I’m sure you have heard this quote before, “confidence is silent, insecurity is loud!” If not, you just heard it here first! This simple, but powerful statement applies to any and everyone. What does this statement mean to you? For me, it means I’m aware of who I am and secure in the abilities I possess. I don’t have to try to convince someone of my greatness because it speaks for itself. Also, it means for me, I can walk into a room without having uttered a word and people are drawn to my presence!
What is Confidence
One of the definitions of confidence in webster.com is a feeling or consciousness of one’s powers or reliance on one’s circumstances. Another definition is the quality or state of being certain. Insecurity is the exact opposite of confidence! I’m sure we’ve all struggled with being insecure, I know I have!
Who Are You Trying to Convince
Have you ever heard someone talk themselves up? What I mean is someone who does nothing, but talk about how good they are at this or that. People spend more time telling someone about their awesome skills or talents than showing them. Or people who constantly flaunt the things that they have? I’ve met several people like that and when it came down to it, deep down inside they were fighting against the little voice inside that was telling them, “no you can’t!” or “no you’re not!” It could’ve been a situation that stemmed from when they were younger and now they feel the need to scream their “confidence” across the room! Honestly, you don’t have to prove anything to anyone, but yourself!
It’s Not Us Who Needs Convincing
What it truly boils down to is when someone is insecure, it bleeds out into almost everything they do. They spend so much time trying to prove or show people they are not insecure that it usually backfires in the end. Insecurities stick out like a sore thumb and most people can see them from a mile away. Who are you trying to convince of your confidence? If you are insecure, do you feel as though you have to try to cover it up with things that are not truly who you are? Do you dress a certain way, and flaunt your money, house, car, or material things to prove something? Do you always feel the need to “show them” who you are? Do you talk about a big game before you even play?
How Do I Know My Confidence is Quiet?
According to Life Coach, eight signs you’re quietly confident are: you’re not afraid to share your opinion and be wrong, you don’t feel the need to compare yourself to others, you accept mistakes, you are capable of speaking up for your wants and needs, you’re open to taking risks, you believe in your self-worth, you accept your vulnerabilities, and you actively listen. If you look at this list and can check off the majority, then you are quite confident! On the other hand, if you can’t, it’s not too late to work on boosting your confidence!
Ending on a Good Note
Confidence is something that we all try to possess, but sometimes we confuse it with insecurity. There’s nothing wrong with believing in yourself and being confident, but it doesn’t always have to be spoken! Your confidence or actions will always speak louder than your words. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone! Greatness lives inside of you and you have to believe it. In the words of Lao Tzu, “Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
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